It's finally happening. It's here. You've waited long enough and now it's your time to enjoy it. You finally have a boyfriend for Valentine's Day. You've spent this horrible day single before and you know that no matter what you decide to do in those 24 hours you will never be as happy as the people who have someone to share it with. Getting chocolates and flowers from your dad gives you the feeling that even he now feels bad for your lack of romance.
But this year is different. You have your boyfriend and your expectations. Nothing but perfection will do. And there it is. The eternal issue. That is why Valentine's Day will always blow. The expectations, demands and need for perfection. We are all starved for romance and Valentine's Day has been advertised as the antidote to all our relationship-related imperfections. If your boyfriend doesn't ever surprise you, well there is his chance to prove that he is in fact a romantic. If he never buys you presents or flowers, what better time to change that than the day when everyone is doing it. If he has lost interest in you in the bedroom, V- Day better be the day he sprinkles those rose petals on the bed and lights the candles. And it is so well known that this SHOULD HAPPEN, that you expect it. You know he should be doing this, he should be ensuring that everything is sheer perfection. If he doesn't, then disappointment ensues.
But is it really fair to put all one's expectations, demands, hopes and romantic goals on one stupid, insignificant, little day? Does it really matter? Is it fair to say that your relationship is defined by the proceedings on Valentine's Day as it is the most romantic holiday there is? I call bullshit. I say you go and enjoy your boyfriend every single day. He cooked you pasta for dinner when you were too exhausted to do anything yourself but he forgot to book a V-day reservation? Big Fucking Deal. If a man loves you, you can feel that every day. Some men like to plan things for V-Day. Others most certainly do not, but that doesn't make them any less worthy of your utmost appreciation. After all, it's just another day so fck the disappointment and go enjoy the fact that you are spending another day with the person you love.
But this year is different. You have your boyfriend and your expectations. Nothing but perfection will do. And there it is. The eternal issue. That is why Valentine's Day will always blow. The expectations, demands and need for perfection. We are all starved for romance and Valentine's Day has been advertised as the antidote to all our relationship-related imperfections. If your boyfriend doesn't ever surprise you, well there is his chance to prove that he is in fact a romantic. If he never buys you presents or flowers, what better time to change that than the day when everyone is doing it. If he has lost interest in you in the bedroom, V- Day better be the day he sprinkles those rose petals on the bed and lights the candles. And it is so well known that this SHOULD HAPPEN, that you expect it. You know he should be doing this, he should be ensuring that everything is sheer perfection. If he doesn't, then disappointment ensues.
But is it really fair to put all one's expectations, demands, hopes and romantic goals on one stupid, insignificant, little day? Does it really matter? Is it fair to say that your relationship is defined by the proceedings on Valentine's Day as it is the most romantic holiday there is? I call bullshit. I say you go and enjoy your boyfriend every single day. He cooked you pasta for dinner when you were too exhausted to do anything yourself but he forgot to book a V-day reservation? Big Fucking Deal. If a man loves you, you can feel that every day. Some men like to plan things for V-Day. Others most certainly do not, but that doesn't make them any less worthy of your utmost appreciation. After all, it's just another day so fck the disappointment and go enjoy the fact that you are spending another day with the person you love.
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